“What the hell. You’re sixteen now. You should be allowed to have a sleepover now.”
“I know right. But, I don’t wanna push my mom too much.”
“Are you scared of wetting your diaper? Also We always meet up for food. I am sick of eating and m getting so fat. It’s so annoying.”
[Evil laughter of teenager girls.]
I didn’t even know these girls. But their loud conversations of these girls taking about boys, berating their parents, wanting to run away from home and partying, made me so angry. I judged them, labeled them spoiled and left.
In reality, I was projecting my own insecurities and past mistakes onto these girls. In judging them, I was angry at myself for being like them at sixteen.
So, what do we learn here kids?
First: Freud isn't as bad as people make him out to be.
Second:
When someone is judging us, they're often projecting their own insecurities or being jealous. So, let's not take it personally, shall we?
Also, when we are judging someone, we are projecting our shadow self. In this sense, to show someone else empathy, we need to show ourself some empathy first.
Remember, our mistakes don’t define us. To err is human.
Forgive yourself. Be Kind to yourself. Have Courage for yourself.
But please don’t turn into a narcissist. Seriously!
XOXO
Arsh Kaur